Stallone was born with a disadvantage for the dream he later developed of becoming a movie star (not just an actor – he wanted to be a star). But a forceps birth had severed a nerve in his lower jaw, which made it look like he was snarling and sound like he was slurring his speech. Both not great advantages when auditioning for parts. People who seem to others to have an extraordinary level of success, might look like they were just lucky – they had the right idea at the right time. But that is not the difference. Many people have great ideas at perfect times. They just don’t believe that THEY are the ones who can implement those ideas.īut they are wrong. There is almost nothing separating the super successful from the averagely successful person, or the ‘unsuccessful’ except for mindset. Look at Sylvester Stallone. You can see those people all around you. Do you think Elon Musk has limiting beliefs? Or Bill Gates? How about Gordon Ramsey? Or Oprah Winfrey? What about Mother Theresa – did she have limiting beliefs? Are Some People Just Lucky? That should be a weird thing to say, because why would you think that? I mean – would your parents not want you to have the earth and everything in it, if you could? Well, probably – in their conscious minds.īut the subconscious is a powerful thing. And just like they have passed on their feelings of worth and possibility to you, their parents did the same to them. At some point you have to break out of that limiting mindset. “I feel like it is OK to have a little bit more than my parents, but no more than that.” ![]() Where Do These Subconscious Beliefs Come From?Īnd it made me think of many conversations I have had with my clients who have said almost the same exact thing. I remember one particular lady who said to me – He was chuffed. And I was chuffed that he was chuffed. Later it occurred to me that it was a good job I have done a lot of work on myself over the last 10 years, otherwise his expectations of what I was capable of might have become mine. “Well Cheryl, I never thought anyone in our family would have a house like this!”. I clearly remember my Dad’s comments after I had shown him around. If you had been to that house, you’d agree it was a fairly big old thing. A converted barn, with lots of rooms, a big yard for multiple cars to park and a rather large and lovely green space with tree’s hedges, patios, paths and the odd flower. I couldn’t call it a garden as much as an oasis of peace and tranquillity, and space! When I lived in my previous house, I remember clearly the first time my Dad visited. It was a glorious day, and the sun sparkled through the windows and drove all the shadows out of the corners of the room, making our multipurpose living room/kitchen/diner, look even bigger. ![]() The Subconscious Barriers That Are Holding You Back You see, they can imagine you going to University if they never did, but maybe being a Nobel prize winner is a step too far. They can imagine you in a better paid job, but maybe not being a millionaire. They can see you in a slightly bigger house, but not a mansion. Holidays they could never afford to take you on.īut even then, there is a limit, an invisible barrier in their minds, and if you are not careful, you will sense that barrier and it will become your own. Your parents want you to do better than they did. They want you to be happy – and that means (at least in their minds) – having more than them. More money. More success. A bigger house. A better car. And most people never think to question it. We are set up on the treadmill of life – with all good intentions in many cases – by parents, school teachers, friends, society. Well, when you think about it – the first half of your life you are very busy being of service and following rules. Rules like – ‘go to school’, ‘work hard and pass your exams’, ‘go to college or Uni’, ‘get a job’, ‘get married’, ‘have kids’, ‘work hard and get promoted’. And many others. Why Does Purpose Become So Important in Mid Life? In women it generally shows up as a sense of dissatisfaction and a search for purpose. ![]() It can often happen around ‘mid life’ and in a man often results in flashy car, an obsession with the gym and maybe a new (for new read younger) model wife or partner.
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